I’m teetering on the edge of controversy here! so here’s the scenario. It’s 6.15 on monday morning and you just heard your childcare plans for the day have just fallen apart. Who do you call? Naturally Riverside Nannies is your first port of call! But lets say you go down the other route and ask the super heroes that live amongst us mere mortals. You ask your mum/dad or mum/dad-in-law. You know the scene, you pick up the phone trying to suppress the rising anxiety in your voice. Ring,ring, do you start with Helllpppp I’m in trouble or do you go for the more casual – do you by any chance fancy throwing your clothes on, grabbing a polystyrene cup of tea and taking 3 trains followed by a walk for the very fit in order to get to my home by 7.30 so I can still go to work today? And here’s why the super heroes are just that – they say ‘of course I will’ and arrive on time. You come home half hoping that as well as doing the childcare stuff your super hero also felt inclined to knock up some supper, run a wash of countless baby grows and leave the sink free of dishes.
So why the controversy? Have you ever thought to check about their actually ability (that’s aside from the presumption of them having oodles of love to offer – for the sake of ease lets take that as a given) are you all on the same page when it comes to whether a baby should be settled on its back or side, what happens if the baby doesn’t settle down for the mid morning nap… you get it ….lots of areas where views can be profoundly different. Asking for help and then being fussy about the type of help you are getting is hard to manage without appearing to be ungrateful/untrusting especially if you add into the dynamic daughter and daughter-in-law.
We’ve been racking our brains how to help and we’ve devised a series of sessions to help where mum and family helper can attend together. Different topics are covered and there is the option to take this in combination Paediatric First Aid – can anyone seriously justifying leaving your child with someone who hasn’t done this these days? Plus on-line course which you can do together (what a great way to use this as a springboard for discussion. The on-line course is available world-wide.
Do share your experiences and nuggets of advice we could all do with it!